So. Show of hands:
Who has ever broken up with someone?
Oh! How many hands there are! [I'm just assuming... forgive me if I'm wrong]. So. Obviously people believe in breaking up with lovers; but how many people here believe in friend breakups? My best friend decided that you can't just break up with friends, but I disagree. Why is it any different to cut someone out of your life [romantically] because you don't love them anymore than to cut a friend out of your life for the same reason?
People seem to think that you have to go through this long winded escapade of canceling plans, ignoring calls, and talking behind their back to end a friendship. Why can't it be as simple as an "I don't love you anymore"?
Now I'm all for peace, and not fighting, but I'll make an analogy to help you better understand my theory here. Let's say you go on a trip to some tropical paradise, but get a crazy disease that rots your arm. The rottingness is spreading up your arm and antibiotics won't work: what do you do? The obvious answer, to me, is to chop that rotten arm right off. I hardly think I need to explain how that analogy relates to cutting toxic relationships out of your life.
I also have a theory that I only have room in my life for so many people. Now you might be all "oh no! You can have as many friends as you want!" But think about it. How many days are there in a year? 365--366 in a good year. So if you have 50 friends, you only will be spending on average about 7 days of actual one on one time with that person. And how many people want to have a friend that they only see 7 times a year? Not I. Now that's a little exaggerated, but that's how I see it. You can't have more friends than you can handle, and who wants to be filling up valuable friend space with people that you don't even want to spend valuable friend time with?!
I also feel like people get comfortable in friendships. Why should it be any different romantic relationships? I'm a firm believer in the fact that you should have to work at any relationship. I think a lot of people think that a friendship is something you can just neglect, and then use to your advantage. Guess what people! It's not a cactus; YOU HAVE TO WATER IT!
